June 27, 2012 by Gina
We have some big family news…we’re having another baby! Yes, that’s right – Brian and I have decided to have a third child. Before we even were married and discussing having a family, we knew we wanted to have 2-4 children if we could. Brian wanted to have five and at the time, I told him that he better shit or get off the pot. We were already in our mid and late 30s so time wasn’t on our side. And…I knew I didn’t want to have five kids. Once we had Finnegan three years ago, he decided five might be too many!
Baby #3 will be born later this year – I’m already 15 weeks into the pregnancy. My due date is December 19th but Finn was five weeks early and Getty was full-term, but two weeks early. With a December baby I wouldn’t mind having the baby a bit earlier and not so close to the holidays, but I don’t want to go too early!
Some people might think we’re crazy for having a third child (and believe me, we’ve had that thought ourselves a few times!). My pregnancy with Finn was high-risk and I spent a total of 3o days in the hospital before and after his birth. I developed pre-eclampsia and then had eclampsia with an emergency c-section, two infections, renal failure, blood transfusions and a few other problems. It was an extremely difficult pregnancy and birth. Many were surprised when we had Getty, but despite some nausea and an extremely FAST birth, everything went just fine. Getty had been a planned c-section but he came so quickly, I had him vaginally (vaginal birth after cesarean or VBAC). I’m planning to have a vaginal birth with this one, but I’ve learned you never know how these things are going to go! So far, I’ve been feeling okay but lots of nausea and of course, tired.
So, now we’re having a third and yes, it is rather quick. Finn with be 3 1/2 and Getty will be 1 1/2 when the baby arrives. We’ll have countless sleepless nights, crabbiness and some difficult years ahead. But we also know that’s temporary. Babies grow up so fast and they are only so dependant on us for a short time. Because we are “older” or “advanced parental age” parents, we knew that if we wanted to have another one, we better make it fairly soon. Even my obstetrician asked if this one came faster than we had planned. Nope, we planned it and we know our kids will be close in age.
We’re excited and nervous about this new territory – going from two to three children. We would love to have a little sister for our two boys but will be just as thrilled if this baby is a little boy. We aren’t finding out the gender – there are so few good surprises in life and this is one of them. We’ve got a lot to do between now and December – mentally and physically preparing for this little bean.
What has your experience been with more than two children? How have you handled so many at such a young age?